Underestimating Obstruction in Romantic Relationships
A study reveals that individuals in cohabiting relationships often fail to recognize how their actions may hinder their partner's goals, which can negatively affect relationship satisfaction.
People in cohabiting relationships often knew when they were helping or hindering their partner’s goals, but they tended to underestimate the ways they got in the way, and those overly positive self-views were linked to poorer relationship outcomes (1). This research was published in the Journal of Social and Personal Relationships and examined whether people can accurately recognize their own influence on their partner’s daily goals (1). The study focused on tracking accuracy, meaning whether self-perceptions correspond with their partner’s reports, and whether biases, such as assuming they affect their partner in the same way their partner affects them, were present (1). [1]
The researchers analyzed data from 212 participants, or 106 cohabiting couples, living in the United States. Couples were recruited through websites such as Craigslist, with advertisements posted in major U.S. cities. To participate, both partners had to be over 18, speak English, have daily internet access, and live together (1). Participants first completed intake questionnaires, and those who passed attention checks moved into a 14-day daily diary phase, where they completed brief reports about that day (1). [1]
Each day, participants rated whether their partner made it easier for them to make progress toward their goals, using a seven-point scale from strongly disagree to strongly agree. They also rated whether they themselves made it easier for their partner to make goal progress. Goal obstruction was measured by asking participants whether their partner made it more difficult for them to make progress, and whether they made it more difficult for their partner to make progress (1). [1]
The study found that people showed some tracking accuracy. On days when partners reported that a participant had been more helpful to their goals, that participant also tended to rate themselves as more helpful. The same pattern appeared for obstruction. When partners reported more obstruction, participants tended to report that they had been more obstructive (1). However, people were generally accurate, on average, about how instrumental they were to their partner’s goals. But they tended to underestimate how much they obstructed their partner’s goals (1). [1]
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People in cohabiting relationships often knew when they were helping or hindering their partner’s goals, but they tended to underestimate the ways they got in the way, and those overly positive self-views were linked to poorer relationship outcomes (1). The study, published in the Journal of Social and Personal Relationships, examined how individuals perceive their influence on their partner's goals and whether these perceptions align with their partner's reports (1). [1]
The researchers analyzed data from 212 participants, or 106 cohabiting couples, living in the United States. Couples were recruited through websites such as Craigslist, with advertisements posted in major U.S. cities. To participate, both partners had to be over 18, speak English, have daily internet access, and live together (1). [1]
Participants first completed intake questionnaires. If both partners completed the intake materials and passed attention checks, they moved into a 14-day daily diary phase. Each night before bed, partners independently completed brief reports about that day. The final analyses used 2,377 daily reports from the 106 couples (1). [1]
People in cohabiting relationships often knew when they were helping or hindering their partner’s goals, but they tended to underestimate the ways they got in the way, and those overly positive self-views were linked to poorer relationship outcomes (1). The study analyzed data from 212 participants, or 106 cohabiting couples, living in the United States. The researchers focused on whether individuals could accurately perceive their own influence on their partner’s daily goals. This included examining whether people showed tracking accuracy, meaning their self-perceptions corresponded with their partner’s reports (1). [1]
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Participants first completed intake questionnaires, and if both partners completed the intake materials and passed attention checks, they moved into a 14-day daily diary phase. Each night before bed, partners independently completed brief reports about that day. The final analyses used 2,377 daily reports from the 106 couples. Each day, participants rated whether their partner made it easier for them to make progress toward their goals, using a seven-point scale from strongly disagree to strongly agree (1). [1]
Goal obstruction was measured by asking participants whether their partner made it more difficult for them to make progress, and whether they made it more difficult for their partner to make progress. Daily relationship satisfaction was assessed using a modified item from the Investment Model Scale, and daily closeness was assessed with an item asking how close participants felt to their partner that day (1). [1]
The researchers tested whether people’s self-ratings matched their partner’s reports, whether people projected their own experience onto their partner, and whether people systematically overestimated or underestimated their impact. People showed some tracking accuracy. On days when partners reported that a participant had been more helpful to their goals, that participant also tended to rate themselves as more helpful (1). [1]
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